Judgement 101

Ever notice how hard it is to give other people the right to be wrong?

Once we decide that we are right about something, we immediately launch a campaign to prove our "rightness" and defeat the other person's foolish notion that they are right.

When judgement enters your mind in this form, it can reek havock on your relationships. I have found that life is so much easier when I don't insist that other people think I am right. Once you express your opinion and the other person expresses their conflicting one, ask yourself, "How important is being right in this situation to my life in general?" If it's a matter of the other person being harmed in some way, then OK, that's important. But so many times, our being right won't have any real impact on our lives, so why not just let it go.

I find that if I am right, it will be proven in time, and if I haven't made a big deal about it, then that gives the other person the freedom to say "You know what, you were right," without it being an admission of defeat after a battle.

Giving the other person the right to be wrong is something I have come to after many years of giving in to judgement. Now I am much more at peace.

Try it and let me know if it works for you.